Love
can feel mysterious
If your life is anything less than richly overflowing with joyful love, you may be missing some vital relationship skills. Like a vitamin deficiency, all it takes is for one small element to be missing, for the whole system to be out of balance.
You crave deeper connections
….yet soulful love seems elusive and you’re uncertain how to cultivate it in your life, without losing your sense of self.
You long to seen, heard, understood, cherished
… but don’t know the secrets of how to nurture this in relationships.
You sometimes feel misunderstood
…but don’t have the language or tools to express this to those around you, in a way that deepens and strengthens relationships.
Are you ready to learn?
Introducing
Relationship Skills
28 days to master the foundations of thriving relationships
A life-changing 28 step-process to instil and master the life-changing foundational skills of relationships.
Because great relationships don’t just happen by chance…
I’ve seen many people struggle with communication, boundaries and connection, often leading to frustration and misunderstandings. You may not realise this now, but mastering relationship skills can turn challenges into opportunities for deeper connections and greater understanding. I’ll guide you through this straightforward step-by-step process (28 steps in total) that will equip you with practical tools and insights to enhance your relationships and prevent common pitfalls.
You’ll gain access to easy-to-apply strategies and engaging exercises that will help you build a solid foundation for thriving relationships. Say goodbye to recurring conflicts and hello to meaningful interactions that truly resonate.
No matter where you are in your relationship journey, this course provides you with the skills to foster deeper connections and navigate your relationships with confidence and ease.
“Shelley came into my life when I was looking for a guiding star. After my engagement had ended, I found myself in complete disarray and had no capacity to do the things I usually loved, even the smallest day-to-day tasks.
Shelley helped me create a physical and emotional structure as a guide for the early weeks when I was distraught with grief.
She was gentle with me, and at the same time firm, as she mentored and coached me to create these new beginnings. Using the 28-step process in “Heartbreak Recovery”, I implemented these new learnings.
Shelley held me by the hand and helped me rebuild my life and my sense of self.
After a short while, I was able to construct my enchanted version and vision of happiness. I now tackle the challenges of life with this renewed vision that means I get the best from myself, thanks to Shelley and her magic wand!”
My path to thriving relationships
Learning about love is like learning a language. In childhood, we pick up the dialects and patterns of our caregivers. If anything isn’t fully nurtured, mirrored and reinforced, there will be gaps that need to be filled.
My childhood was full of gaps. I didn’t acquire the full set of skills of love and I didn’t know what I didn’t know! I smashed into many metaphorical brick-walls in my relationships until I began to understand the true nature of love, through my experiences and studies.
It took me many decades to put together the missing pieces of the foundational skills of love and it wasn’t until I fully mastered these skills that my own relationships took off.
Since these personal breakthroughs and across my many decades of working as a specialised relationship coach, I’ve refined this framework into a deep understanding of the craft of the skills of love.
Today, it’s my privilege and thrill to take you through this very particular skill-set.
Year after year, I’ve watched my clients attain their deepest dreams of love, through mastering this skill set. It doesn’t take much to learn but it’s profoundly transformative. You’ll see!
With Relationship Skills
you’ll learn how to:
Build strong foundations
by mastering essential relationship skills that create a solid base for deep and lasting connections.
Create lasting relationships
with practical strategies to turn potential pitfalls into growth opportunities.
Attract meaningful connections
by presenting your authentic self, drawing in people who resonate with you, and creating a magnetic presence.
Ignite your inner fire
by developing the courage to pursue and maintain meaningful relationships, facing challenges with confidence and turning them into deeper connections.
Develop emotional intelligence
through exercises designed to boost empathy and communication, enhancing all your interactions.
Infuse creativity and vibrancy
into your relationships, making them more dynamic and fulfilling, and bringing out the best in yourself and others.
Enhance self-awareness
by understanding your relationship patterns and needs, allowing you to make informed choices and cultivate connections that align with your true self.
Transform your relationship future
by applying these skills to move beyond past disappointments, creating a vibrant, fulfilling relational life.
Stories about
Relationship Skills
“Without Shelley, I’d be in the tall grass. No doubt about it. Not only is she one of the most beautiful people I’ve ever met – inside and out – she is kind, sensitive, thoughtful and understanding.
She is compassionate and authentic and she can pick apart complex issues and make you understand them with ease. It’s no understatement to say that the process of working with her completely changed my life.
From being in a dark place she gave me the confidence to see the light again. No amount of thanks can ever be enough for Shelley. If you’re considering joining her programme, I advise you in the strongest possible terms to do it. It will be the best call you make this year.
I believe in happy endings. All of this culminated in me finding my special love and getting married in October 2020.”
Your 4-Part Process
Part 1:
Grounding in Clarity
The first seven days of developing relationship skills begin with igniting your inner flame and gaining clarity about who you are and what you need. Establishing a strong sense of self is the foundation for all meaningful connections.
Why emotional regulation is a crucial relationship skill and how to master it.
The critical art of boundaries: understanding and setting them for healthier interactions.
What your inner compass is, how to activate it, and why it’s essential for making wise relationship choices.
How to discern who is safe to connect with and who isn’t, ensuring your relationships are supportive and nurturing.
Part 2:
Stepping into call to adventure
Building on your growing clarity, the next phase focuses on embracing change and stepping into new realms. You’ll learn to transform the discomfort of challenge while cultivating courage and resilience.
Balancing the courage to take risks with the wisdom to avoid harmful decisions
How to build a supportive community and network of love, fostering healthy connections without creating dependencies.
A tried-and-tested formula for knowing how and when to trust, ensuring your relationships are built on a solid foundation.
Why and how creativity plays a vital role in relationship building, making your connections more vibrant and dynamic.
Part 3:
Dialling up the heat of joy
Deceptively simple at first, this next set of skills can be some of the hardest to establish. When you master these skills, they bring the deepest kind of connection and yield rich rewards, making your relationships radiantly life-enhancing.
Why awe is a surprisingly important relationship skill and what it means for deepening connections.
Play isn’t just for children. How it can instil closeness via the concept of flow.
Understanding that relationships depend more on our passion for our own lives than just our passion for others.
What it means to be fully present in a relationship and how this skill can enhance every interaction.
Part 4:
Embedding wisdom from perspective
In this final stage, you’ll harness a form of wisdom gained from a broader perspective. These skills will provide deep insights and transformative understanding, enriching your relationships in profound ways.
How a counter-intuitive understanding of space transforms relationships, allowing them to thrive.
What it means to integrate a shadow and how this deep self-awareness can enhance your connections.
Measuring the health of a relationship through the style of repair and why it’s crucial for long-term success.
How to become more discerning and intentional in the choices of the people you choose to keep in your life, ensuring they contribute positively to your well-being.
Bonuses
98-page Companion Workbook, your personal guide with actionable steps to help you heal and grow.
5 Downloadable Meditations to help calm your mind.
When you join
Relationship Skills
you’ll finally be able to create thriving and deeply connected relationships, with ease and confidence.
Sign up today to access your easy to implement 28-step framework for just
Single payment
Here’s what you get when you enrol:
Relationship Skills
The Relationship Skills 28-Step Framework delivered in a series of perspective-shifting video trainings.
Course Workbook
Unlock the power of transformation with a 98-page Relationship Skills Workbook. Dive deep into self-reflection and actionable steps.
5 Meditations
5 healing meditations that will help shift stubborn thoughts (even when you can’t face hauling yourself off the sofa).
Frequently
asked questions
What will I gain from the Relationship Skills course?
The Relationship Skills course equips you with the essential tools to build and sustain fulfilling relationships. You’ll learn effective communication, conflict resolution and how to establish healthy boundaries. These skills will empower you to create deeper connections and navigate relationships with confidence and ease.
Is this course suitable if I'm currently in a relationship?
Absolutely! Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this course will help you enhance your connection with your partner. If you’re in a relationship, the skills you learn will support you in creating a stronger, more harmonious bond.
Do I need any prior experience or knowledge to take this course?
No prior experience or knowledge is needed. The course is designed for everyone, regardless of your background or previous relationship experiences. Each step is explained clearly and concisely, making it easy to follow and implement.
What if I don’t have a lot of time to commit each day?
The course is designed to be flexible. You can complete the steps at your own pace, fitting them into your schedule as needed. Even dedicating a small amount of time each day can lead to significant improvements over the course of the programme.
How is this course different from reading relationship advice books or articles?
Unlike books or articles, this course offers a structured, step-by-step approach with practical exercises and real-world applications. The 28-step framework ensures that you not only learn the theory but also practice and integrate the skills into your daily life, leading to lasting change.
How will this course help me if I’ve struggled with relationships in the past?
The Relationship Skills course addresses common pitfalls and challenges in relationships. By following the 28-step process, you’ll gain a deeper understanding of yourself and others, which helps break old patterns and fosters healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
What if I have questions or need additional support during the course?
You’ll have access to a supportive community where you can ask questions and share experiences. Additionally, there are resources available to provide extra guidance if you need it.
Live program
Ready for an accelerated version of the Relationship Skills course?
Bookings are now open for the accelerated-learning LIVE version of Relationship Skills. The RELATIONSHIP-READY RESET live online program is a super-charged version of Relationship Skills, with the addition of:
6 weeks of live weekly online group coaching sessions with Shelley
Private check in sessions with Shelley
Group support chat
Supportive meditations
Free access to the Dating Decoder workshop
Working in a small group of like-minded individuals, to further develop your strengthened relationship skills
