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Strategies and inspiration for healing, dating and loving for the long term
How to cultivate passion in life and love
Passion is one of those words we tend to associate with romance. We speak about finding it, losing it, or trying to get it back, as though it only exists between two people. Over the past twenty years of working with...
Why play matters in relationships
There is an interesting paradox about adulthood. We spend our childhood and youth looking forward to the freedom that comes with growing up, only to discover that freedom arrives hand in hand with responsibility....
You can be physically present and still miss what’s happening
A lot of people move through their lives slightly ahead of themselves. Even during ordinary moments, their attention is often elsewhere. Thinking about what still needs to happen later that day. Revisiting something...
Trust grows through what is shown, not just felt
Trust is often described as something you feel. It’s a sense that someone is safe, reliable, or aligned with you. In some situations, this feeling can be clear and steady. In others, it can feel uncertain, shifting...
The same problems repeat until you approach them differently
There are moments in relationships where something begins to feel uncomfortably familiar. A conversation repeats itself. A disagreement follows the same pattern. You reach a point where it feels as though you have...
Why support is something you build, not something you find in one person
There is a common expectation in relationships that one person will naturally become your main source of support. It can feel reasonable to assume that a close partner or connection will be the person you turn to when...
Why things often feel uncertain just as they begin to deepen
At the beginning of a new relationship, there is often a sense of ease that feels reassuring. Conversation flows without effort, there is a natural curiosity about each other, and the connection seems to carry itself....
How to tell if it’s lust or love
It’s easy to mistake lust and love. In the early days of a relationship things often feel confusingly blurred. The chemistry, the excitement, the rush of attraction—it’s easy to mistake one for the other. Over time,...
How to create community
We learn best through experience. No amount of theory can replace the impact of actually living something—feeling it and trying it out in real time. This is especially true when it comes to relationships and community....
How to do an at-home private couples retreat
There comes a time in every relationship when you long to step away from the noise of life and come back to one another. Work, family and routine can quietly crowd out the closeness you once felt. That’s why many...
How to build deeper connection in your relationship
Every relationship begins like spring — full of energy and possibility. Yet as the seasons turn, love asks more of us. Even the strongest couples can find themselves feeling distant, getting caught in old arguments or...
The Power of Holding Space: Why Listening Matters More Than Advice
Holding space is one of the most powerful skills in any relationship, yet it’s rarely discussed outside of relationship coaching or couples therapy. Too often, when someone shares something vulnerable, the automatic...
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