The blog

Every one of us tells ourselves stories throughout the day. Most of them happen so quickly and so automatically that we barely notice they exist. Someone’s delayed reply becomes evidence that they are upset with us. A...

When we hear the word integrity, most of us think about honesty. We think of telling the truth, keeping our promises and doing the right thing even when no one is watching. While these are certainly expressions of...

When people describe someone as optimistic, they often talk as though it is something they were born with. Some people naturally expect good things to happen, while others simply see the world more through a different...

I would like you to think of admiration. As you reflect on it, do you automatically visualise it flowing towards someone else? We admire a friend’s kindness, a partner’s courage or even a colleague’s integrity. We...

There is an interesting paradox about adulthood. We spend our childhood and youth looking forward to the freedom that comes with growing up, only to discover that freedom arrives hand in hand with responsibility....

Trust is often described as something you feel. It’s a sense that someone is safe, reliable, or aligned with you. In some situations, this feeling can be clear and steady. In others, it can feel uncertain, shifting...

There are moments in relationships where something begins to feel uncomfortably familiar. A conversation repeats itself. A disagreement follows the same pattern. You reach a point where it feels as though you have...

There is a common expectation in relationships that one person will naturally become your main source of support. It can feel reasonable to assume that a close partner or connection will be the person you turn to when...