Shelley J Whitehead

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Shelley J Whitehead - Relationship Coach
Why do values matter in relationships?

Why do values matter in relationships?

If you want to improve your relationship skills, strengthen how you connect with others or are looking for a partner, it’s a really good idea to have a solid understanding of your own values as well as understanding...

What are values?

What are values?

What, exactly, are values?  It’s a term that gets talked about a lot in coaching, self-help, self-development and psychology… but there are actually lots of different definitions and interpretations of the...

What is interdependence?

What is interdependence?

Have you heard the term interdependence? It’s an important concept to understand, as a foundation for healthy relationships.  In my work as a specialist relationship coach, it’s something we talk about a...

How to manage performance anxiety

How to manage performance anxiety

Performance anxiety is surprisingly common. Most often, you’ll hear it mentioned in the context of work (where it can also be called ‘stage fright’)… but is equally common in intimate settings. Today I’m going to focus...

A technique to help you get over your ex

A technique to help you get over your ex

Are you stuck in a heart break rut and finding it really hard to stop turning thoughts about your ex over and over in your head? Are you replaying moments in the relationship, trying to understand what happened and...

How to know what your values are

How to know what your values are

Do you know what your personal values are? Do you have a strong sense of which values are most important to you and do you have clarity on the values of the significant people in your life? Do you know why it is...

Why do people cheat in relationships?

Why do people cheat in relationships?

When people cheat in relationships it can be devastating. But there are always reasons why people cheat, so with an understanding of the reasons people cheat, you are not only forearmed to look out for the signs but...

3 subtle signs you are in a toxic relationship

3 subtle signs you are in a toxic relationship

Are you concerned that you might be in a toxic relationship? Are you feeling unclear about the difference between healthy relationships and toxic relationships? A few days ago, I wrote an article about overt signs of...

3 overt signs you are in a toxic relationship

3 overt signs you are in a toxic relationship

There are some behaviours that are overt signs of toxicity in a relationship.  In my work as a relationship coach, whenever these overt signs crop up with individuals or couples, I interpret them as very clear...

Drawing back and looking inwards

Drawing back and looking inwards

The rich colours of Autumn are giving way to the pared-down simplicity of winter, as the orangey-red leaves drop, one by one. It’s the time of the year when the trees stop putting their energy into growing and shift it...

What is ‘conscious dating’?

What is ‘conscious dating’?

Have you heard the term ‘conscious dating’ before? It sounds good, doesn't it? In my experience as a specialist relationship coach it is the only way to ENSURE that you come out of the dating process with the right...

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