As a relationship coach, I work with individuals and couples in making changes in their lives, focusing on relationship skills and resources. I am always encouraging people to embrace change and allow themselves to...
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Shelley J Whitehead
Is crying good for you?
When my relationship ended I suddenly understood the meaning of the term ‘heart ache’. I had physical pain in the hollows of my chest cavity, where there was less of a beat - more just an empty echo of what once was...
Desperate for closure? Don’t make these mistakes
In my work as a relationship coach, people often come to me when they are recovering from heartbreak, and are desperate to get ‘closure’. I see them making the same mistakes over and over again in both their...
How attachment wounds affect breakups
Over the course of the last ten years, I have worked with thousands of individuals going through breakups. My experience has shown me that the vast majority of individuals who experience incredibly painful breakups are...
Are they trustworthy? The Time Factor
Trust is something that is developed over time. There’s a very simple reason for that: it’s because two of the three measures of trust depend on a certain amount of time, before you can be sure of them. I’m going to...
Good boundaries after a breakup
As you leave a relationship, in the early stages of a breakup, you may find yourself struggling with fully separating and differentiating your thoughts (from the place of ‘we’ to ‘I’) and reclaiming your boundaries....
What to do if you’re living with your ex
In an ideal world, when a relationship is over, you or they can move out and start to move on. But in reality that’s not always an immediate practical possibility for some. You might have to carry on living with them...
How to have a healthy relationship
When people talk about great relationships, they often get a little bit fixated on the concept of ‘chemistry’ (the alchemy of those warm, bubbly, fuzzy, liberating, butterfly-in-tummy inspiring, uplifting feelings...
Every day is a fresh start
There’s something magical about the first calendar day of a new year. It’s full of promise and the perfect moment for a fresh start. But, at the same time, there’s something that feels so heavy about the idea of having...
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