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When we talk about boundaries, it’s helpful to distinguish between boundaries that you have with yourself and boundaries you have with others. In this article, talk through the kind of boundaries you have with...

Why are we not properly taught the skill of listening, when we’re at school?! We’re always told we should be listening… but it’s very rare that we’re actually taught how we can be a good listener!   Here are...

When you’re in conflict with someone, do you ever get a sneaky suspicion that the subject you are arguing about isn’t the *real* problem? If you do, that might mean that  you are upset about a pseudo issue. ...

Do you ever find yourself saying things you regret? Or reacting to a situation or a person in a way that, deep down, you know is going to make the situation worse? It’s easily done, particularly in situations that are...

If you want to improve your relationship skills, strengthen how you connect with others or are looking for a partner, it’s a really good idea to have a solid understanding of your own values as well as understanding...

What, exactly, are values?  It’s a term that gets talked about a lot in coaching, self-help, self-development and psychology… but there are actually lots of different definitions and interpretations of the...

A reaction is an unconscious action. It’s an immediate kind of reflex, where we don’t do any processing of how we actually want to engage with the situation and what the healthiest or most productive next step could...

Have you heard the term interdependence? It’s an important concept to understand, as a foundation for healthy relationships.  In my work as a specialist relationship coach, it’s something we talk about a...

Performance anxiety is surprisingly common. Most often, you’ll hear it mentioned in the context of work (where it can also be called ‘stage fright’)… but is equally common in intimate settings. Today I’m going to focus...