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Kintsugi for the Heart
The secret to healing your heartbreak is hidden in a 600-year-old Japanese tradition. In the late 15th Century, Japanese shōgun Ashikaga Yoshimasa was outraged to find his favourite tea bowl had been repaired with ugly...
How To Get Over Your Ex
As a relationship coach I help singles who are at different stages of their journey. Many of my clients come to me at the end of a relationship, when they are stuck in the desperate “why has this happened to me?”...
When to end a relationship
A few days ago, Caroline contacted me on Facebook with a huge dilemma. She has been dating her boyfriend Max for six months and although they have an enjoyable time together, her gut feeling was that he isn’t “the...
The 5 Foundation Rules for Success In Love
I am so grateful to have been mentored by my Aunt, Yvonne Doucha, who has spent over 60 years on a quest to find a spiritual path that resonates with her. Along the way I have benefited so much from the many lessons...
How a miscarriage affects a relationship
Harriet and Steve sat in my consultation room one sunny morning in July. I listened to Harriet, as her tears fell, recalling the previous four months since the loss of their baby. Steve sat silently, holding her hand....
Safe online dating
I had a session a new client this morning dealing with her feeling of rejection because the man she met online, and has been dating for six weeks disappeared. Disappeared without a trace. Not contactable. Gone....
Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know
The title to this video is from Pema Chodron, the American Tibetan buddhist and teacher. Someone I admire and who teachings inspire me always I have experienced this to be so true – that nothing goes away until we get...
Leap Year Proposal — should you do it?
February the 29th - the date that legend has it when a woman has the privilege of proposing to a man. This tradition and practice dates back about four centuries. It continues in our day and once again – Leap Year is...
I thought it was forever and now he’s gone
"He said he loved me and now he's gone - after four magical weeks - it felt like I had finally met my partner for life. What happened? I just can't understand it" The question above from a heartbroken new client who...
You have everything
A lazy Sunday morning – my house is very quiet. My son is away for the weekend, no mess, no noise – oh yes, I love the fact that my student son lives at home – and I also love the solitude and the reflective time I...
Planting Trees and Creating Dreams
I am back in Cornwall writing my book, so grateful for some sunshine today. Somehow the words flow so easily with patches of blue sky above. I would like to share with you a Chinese wisdom, because at the end of the...
Are you involved in a secret relationship?
Are you involved in a Secret Relationship that is meeting one or more of your Six Human Needs? Does it give you Certainty? Does it give you Variety? Do you feel Significant? Does it meet your need for Love and...
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