Shelley J Whitehead

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Strategies and inspiration for healing, dating and loving for the long term

Shelley J Whitehead - Relationship Coach
What to do if you’re living with your ex

What to do if you’re living with your ex

In an ideal world, when a relationship is over, you or they can move out and start to move on. But in reality that’s not always an immediate practical possibility for some. You might have to carry on living with them...

How to have a healthy relationship

How to have a healthy relationship

When people talk about great relationships, they often get a little bit fixated on the concept of ‘chemistry’ (the alchemy of those warm, bubbly, fuzzy, liberating, butterfly-in-tummy inspiring, uplifting feelings...

Every day is a fresh start

Every day is a fresh start

There’s something magical about the first calendar day of a new year. It’s full of promise and the perfect moment for a fresh start. But, at the same time, there’s something that feels so heavy about the idea of having...

How to be a better listener

How to be a better listener

Why are we not properly taught the skill of listening, when we’re at school?! We’re always told we should be listening… but it’s very rare that we’re actually taught how we can be a good listener!   Here are...

What is a pseudo-issue?

What is a pseudo-issue?

When you’re in conflict with someone, do you ever get a sneaky suspicion that the subject you are arguing about isn’t the *real* problem? If you do, that might mean that  you are upset about a pseudo issue. ...

How to know if you are ready to date again

How to know if you are ready to date again

A question I get asked a lot in relationship coaching is ‘how will I know when I am ready to date again?’ or ‘How soon is too soon to start dating again, after a breakup’.  I’m a strong advocate of a conscious...

How to respond rather than react

How to respond rather than react

Do you ever find yourself saying things you regret? Or reacting to a situation or a person in a way that, deep down, you know is going to make the situation worse? It’s easily done, particularly in situations that are...

Why do values matter in relationships?

Why do values matter in relationships?

If you want to improve your relationship skills, strengthen how you connect with others or are looking for a partner, it’s a really good idea to have a solid understanding of your own values as well as understanding...

What are values?

What are values?

What, exactly, are values?  It’s a term that gets talked about a lot in coaching, self-help, self-development and psychology… but there are actually lots of different definitions and interpretations of the...

What is interdependence?

What is interdependence?

Have you heard the term interdependence? It’s an important concept to understand, as a foundation for healthy relationships.  In my work as a specialist relationship coach, it’s something we talk about a...

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